How do you fight negativity?

[beren]

Really how do you do it?

Do you sometimes feel like me,when talking with some people for a bit longer time-you feel drained out of energy and tired...

Or you feel wonderful and want to share that with your close ones and boom! You hit the wall of negativity ...
I think being negative just brings you some sort of pain. And after awhile the pain gets kinda inbeded in your thinking...

I am not reffering when talking about being positive to be like lalalalalala birds are singing and all is happy...
But rather being truly bright and positive person,changing pain around and inside of you into hapiness-a genuine one!

[Initiate]

The brighter the light the more the shadows fade. Also the more sources of light the greater the sum. One step at a time.

[morguana]

i find acceptance of the human condition helps, that and living from the heart,
better than a thousand hollow words is one that brings peace.

on another level, i make sure that i cleanse before meditating every day and keep my cloak (bubble of light?) around me

bou x

[eleni]

By raising your own vibration to cancel out negative forms, thoughts, etc;

[orthodoxymoron]

The subject of positve and negative thinking is very intricate...and should be carefully thought through. I fully support positive thinking...the right kind of positive thinking. At what point does being positive morph into thinking things are fine when they're not...or being gullible...or being dishonest...or not facing reality? Positive thinking is a double-edged sword. It cuts both ways. It can get you out of trouble...and it can get you into trouble. There are politicians, preachers, and gurus who encourage their followers to believe in them, to have faith, or to think positively. Does this often shut down critical thinking? The primrose path can lead directly to a very high cliff.

My goal is to be neither presumptuously positive...or needlessly negative. One of my favorite terms is Positive Response Ablility...where one thinks both positively and negatively to accurately analyze a problem...and then proceeds to formulate a positive solution. If someone warns of a very real problem...are they shut-down, shut-up, and shut-out because they are perceived as being negative? "The bridge couldn't possibly be washed-out...could it? Let's just keep driving. Let's not even slow down. That idiot is always so negative. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!!!!!!!"

We often swing back and forth between 'everything's fine' and 'everything's rotten'. Most things are a mixed-bag. We are so easily attracted to sometimes very dangerous things. We are sometimes easily panicked into a stampede. Edwin Bernays concluded that the masses were dangerously irrational...and must be deceptively controlled and manipulated. In other words "give 'em what they want...tell 'em what they want to hear...and lead them right down the primrose path by the hooks in their noses." The inability to think critically will allow the New World Order to triumph. But hey...extermination and enslavement can't be all that bad. We need to think positively.

[beren]

Originally Posted by orthodoxymoron

The subject of positve and negative thinking is very intricate...and should be carefully thought through. I fully support postive thinking...the right kind of positive thinking. At what point does being positive morph into thinking things are fine when they're not...or being gullible...or being dishonest...or not facing reality? Positive thinking is a double-edged sword. It cuts both ways. It can get you out of trouble...and it can get you into trouble. There are politicians, preachers, and gurus who encourage their followers to believe in them, to have faith, or to think positively. Does this often shut down critical thinking? The primrose path can lead directly to a very high cliff.

My goal is to be neither presumptuously positive...or needlessly negative. One of my favorite terms is Positive Response Ablility...where one thinks both positively and negatively to accurately analyze a problem...and then proceeds to formulate a positive solution. If someone warns of a very real problem...are they shut-down, shut-up, and shut-out because they are perceived as being negative? "The bridge couldn't possibly be washed-out...could it? Let's just keep driving. Let's not even slow down. That idiot is always so negative. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!!!!!!!"

We often swing back and forth between 'everything's fine' and 'everything's rotten'. Most things are a mixed-bag.

Ortho, exactly the point of my view on this.

For example if you`re being over positive ,you might then be superficial ...
And life is not superficial...

[RedeZra]

when negativity wells up in me

from time to time

from out of the blue or from my attitude

I go to sleep the gym or eat a better meal

I allow it to vent and not to explode


also talking to much can drain the energy as can bad company

Contentment is a great attitude

Happiness is an interval between sadness as pleasure is between pain


Contentment is a smooth serene surf upon the wave of Consciousness

[GODDESS OF PURPLE LIGHT]

Do not fight it!

Fighting is the wrong approach

If you fight it, the only thing you are going to get is more negativity...

Just let them express themselves...
Just observe
Just let it be...

and when it is too much....
remove yourself (your physical body) from the situation...

and then

you will have to process that negative energy.....
It will take you a little while...it depends how often do you use these techniques...

there is no point in arguing....
or fighting
or trying to convince them of how wrong they are....

They want you to act like them
They want you to get annoyed as well
is what they want

They want you to vibrate at the same level ....
if you do not give them that...
if you do not change your vibrations...
if you remain calm
they will stop
even more if YOU REMAIN SILENT...
SILENT....
AND NICE....
THE FIGHT WILL BE OVER, because the only one making noise will be themselves.

and basically
do not take things personally

when someone is in a negative state
whatever they tell you, it has nothing to do with you
it is just them
it is everything about them....
it is not you....

You have to become a mirror
a silent mirror
where they can see their own reflection

Be silent
Be peaceful
and do not take it personally...

The most difficult thing to do
is to maintain yourself in a calm state of mind
...........
that is a extremely difficult thing to do

But it is possible...

also a smile
a nice word
an understanding gesture
a sorry
and caring behaviour
will calm any BEAST...

we are all the same
and people suffers
as you do...

we are all the same
we are not that different!!!




Wellcome to third dimension!!!!

Goddess

[TruthWillSetUFree]

Originally Posted by beren

Really how do you do it?

Do you sometimes feel like me,when talking with some people for a bit longer time-you feel drained out of energy and tired...

Or you feel wonderful and want to share that with your close ones and boom! You hit the wall of negativity ...
I think being negative just brings you some sort of pain. And after awhile the pain gets kinda inbeded in your thinking...

I am not reffering when talking about being positive to be like lalalalalala birds are singing and all is happy...
But rather being truly bright and positive person,changing pain around and inside of you into hapiness-a genuine one!

Interesting thread...thanks

For me it depends what the conversation is about.

If it is a mundane conversation, such as, the weather, I quickly begin fading out

If someone is pooping their drama in my ear....I feel drained, especially if it is an emotive story I have heard from them before and have tried to help them see a different view, but they clearly want to suffer with it, or BE RIGHT and blame another instead of being responsible for what happened, not like it is their fault, but by allowing an experience to drain them of their power.

If it is a person that always emits negative energy or is an energy vampire I steer clear of them.

If it is a conversation about quantum physics or archetypal energies or anything that makes my brain bigger and vibrant, like this thread, I am energized by it.

When I was deep in my shadow work years ago I had an insight that "my happiness" was a patterned response and had nothing to do with me being really happy. I was brought up that if you were a happy girl you received more love and attention so I was happy.
After I saw this for myself, I realized my happiness did not stem on outside influences or 'getting something' back, such as love or attention. I also realized that I cannot 'make' anyone happy. This was huge for me as I was a fixer. Little did I know at the time that this is truly the height of arrogance and control over another to think I would know what is best for them even under the guise of being helpful and kind! This is how clever the ego is!

When I am happy now it is a deeply experienced emotion because I feel it from within as a consequence of who I AM rather than an external source that may or may not be present, so I don't depend on life to show up a certain way for me to be happy.

The best part is the freedom to be unhappy sometimes too!

I think negative thinking can be habitual and part of 'monkey mind', especially if you heard a lot of negative remarks as a child growing up. It is part of learning how to manage your mind instead of it managing you.
We cannot really control the mind and if you think it's easy tell your mind to stop thinking about pink elephants right now. It's the mind's job to think, think, and think some more, just like the heart's job it to beat and your eyes to see.
I feel it is about awareness and being aware when negative thoughts come up. Just the simple act of noticing them already has huge potential in changing them.
Then you can focus on what they are saying to you. You may even be surprised to hear your mother's voice! They say the longest conversation we have ever had is with ourself! That certainly puts it into perspective!

Love & Light,
Truth

[beren]

Originally Posted by GODDESS OF PURPLE LIGHT

Do not fight it!
Fighting is the wrong approach
If you fight it, the only thing you are going to get is more negativity...
Just let them express themselves...
Just observe
Just let it be...
{Moderator Note: please snip out part of long quotes - there is a little link to the whole post at the top}

this was a great reply!

[Tango]

I don't fight it... I repel negativity.... Turn away from it...

However, they're are Energy takers also.... I've felt them... I excuse myself...

But, I can control my freqency..... I call it " Heat Up..." Then, I C00L down...

I, bring my heart rate to 185 BPM for a length of time during meditation.

Trooly,

Tango

[Peace of mind]

Fight it with love. Love conquers all. You can catch more flies with honey than with waste. Whenever a negative situation arrives, just kill it with kindness. It never fails and sometimes it becomes more rewarding when the negative entity isn’t expecting it. In most cases they will become aware of the issue and correct them before they end up embarrassing themselves and you…any farther. It can be tough turning the other cheek, but think of the energies involved…. What you put out is what you get back. And, also consider the amount of programmed trapped minds / the innocence of the sleeping souls being used to bring your vibes down. You have to be more responsible, forgiving, respectful, patient and a creative educator…..then move on continuing your own personal experience.

In other words………What another person eats is not going to make you ****.

Humans are conditioned from birth to accept and like negativity. I even hear some people say stuff like “Well, it’s in our nature to be like this”. Personally, I think that’s a cop out. My days are becoming more and more bliss because that’s the only images I choose to realize. I do not let others (especially the media) tell me what’s bad when I have my own senses to decipher the environments. Once people lose the ego they’ll be able to handle any so called negative scenario…which in most cases people bring on to themselves.

Too many people are willing to argue, fight, nit pick, nag, and find faults in others before they are willing to say something simple like “I love you”. They will either feel soft or weak if they don’t partake in the yelling, patronizing, teasing, or disparaging of their so called enemies. It’s become a sad competition to see who is wittier or more emotionally abusing.Yeah, it can be a task to not give in to / or fight against your views of negativity, but ultimately……….. you can choose to be around it or not…

Peace

[Malletzky]

In order to feel (or see) the negativity, one should be in the state of positivity.

I call this "the state of positivity", as this is much more of just "being positive". It is much more then just a positive thought, much more then just a positive word. For me, it is like being awake and aware of every moment of my live, being aware of every move and every step I make, being aware of my thoughts and words and finaly, being aware of the cause-and-effect chain which comes from the previous action.

I know, it may sound weird and complicated, and believe me, it was...on the very begining of this state of positivity, which I choose to live like.

It is a process, which makes you think, both with your mind and your heart, of many, many things in your life...and the better you get in this process, you'll notice that more and more you start to think only with your heart and that you start to act only by what your heart tells you! And this is one of the biggest blessing I could get in my everyday life...

So how do I fight negativity?

I don't !!!

I just simply let the negative (whether this percieved negativity has been caused by other people or by some situations) to BE negative. .

I've learned that if I fight it, I just make it stronger.

Therefore, I just let it be and try, from my point of view and in an appropriate manner of course, to solve the situation. I just don't worry that the negativity could affect my "state of positivity". More often now, it just bounce away from me...it is a natural process for me...I don't even intent of bouncing it away. It just happens.

Now, even if the negativity affects me, then I should have learn that lesson...I take it as it is and try to make the best of it.

By the way, and this is something I've noticed recently, these forums are sliding, slowly but with certainty, in the direction of "the state of positivity".
The positive energies of many members here are getting stronger and stronger and these, bunched together, will cause any negativtiy to just slowly vanish...for good.

I would say, thank YOU ALL here for being what you are...thank you for your contribution.

...and Beren, thank you for this thread...I needed this right now...

with and respect
malletzky

[burgundia]

yes.....
Do not fight....but do not surrender...

[14 Chakras]

Resist no evil Jesus said.

I believe we should:

Fight nothing. Whatever we fight we create an equal and opposite reaction. This keeps us trapped in the never ending struggle. We can end the struggle.

Surrender to what IS and shine our light brightly.

Free will is the key law. We must always respect others free will.

Know that we are not there yet. Can we do the works that Jesus did only greater works than these we can do? There is always More.

Shine our light, live Life, Be unconditional love. Resist nothing. Jump back in the river of life where all is given unto us.

[mudra]

Turn any negativity into an opportunity to do something good with it .
With Love and a litle imagination you can turn gloomy vibrations into blissfull ones..
It seems it's all happening out there in front of You but really the truth is there is
only you and what you do with it.
Smile, laugh, paint it with new colors ,dance with it , raise it up into something light ...no need to fight ...

When the road looks like a dead end
change your perspective of it
because after you do
there are all new ways to go.


Just follow your Heart

Love Always
mudra

[Rareheart]

Mudra is right...

...no need to fight ...

[beren]

Be the change you want to see is one powerful sentence.

Love your neighbor as your self...
As it was stated here in comments before -this sentence: "I love you."
Is such a powerful tool against darkness and negativity.

P.S.

I would quote here one thing but I won`t tell you the source

Love


If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

[Karen]

Just an FYI: Yellow and the lighter pastel text colors do not show up in "Minty" skin which is so much cooler on the eyes than "Avalon Electric." The skin change button is on the lower left. In Minty it switches to the right side.

Beren's choice of colors in the above post show up well in Minty.

[Jack]

There is not really any way to "fight" negativity and have an end result of positivity. When we encounter negativity we are confronted with an opportunity to change the way in which we react to it. To accomadate it and still remain positive. If someone is constantly putting you down then stop reacting by feeling down. Instead love them for that insecurity that lies beneath their mask which is responsible for them acting with you in this way.

Earth is a challenging place. And the challenge is to remain positive in the face of all of the negativity, which is without doubt, rampant. To shine our light no matter what. Its a difficult challenge to love someone who is abusing you. But doing so, is the key. And walking a path such as this will eventually absolve all karma so we may move on to the next stage of learning.

This is what ive found to be true. Thats not to say ive mastered it yet, because obviously , im stil here.

[Ross H]

with love, love and more love...from the love within you, and you have an endless supply

Peace always

[Carol]

How do you fight negativity? Refuse to participate.

[orthodoxymoron]

[Humble Janitor]

I fight negativity by avoiding things that I know will draw the most negative energy out of me, even if it means that I'm gonna **** off people here.

Sometimes I can't help but comment if something bugs me and it's incredibly negative.

But in real life, I keep energy vampires at arm's length and as lonely as it feels, I know that I can do good that will benefit others and that's the path I continue to move in.

[Phtha]

Love it! Marry it! Laugh at it! Forgive it! Hug it! Overwhelm it with higher vibrations!
Don't hate it, you add to hate. Don't avoid it, what you resist will persist!

LOVE IT.