I understand fully what you say, the difficulty here seems that love has been interpreted (or utilized by the leaders) as "sentimental love"...conditional love...
Love is not sentimental nor coodependant love just is unconditional.
Unconditional means "without conditions"
Same can be applied to sympathy...most of the charitable work gets done out of pitty and the "guilt" people feel that they are better off than others; the root of the problem is in the inequality of the economic system and charities are solely the "band aid" that help us sleep at night if we live in a 1st world country.
Compassion on the other hand is giving to others what they need, even if it is a though lessons, not what we want to give to make us feel better.
This is and extract from
http://www.kindnet.co.uk/articles/un...onal_love.html
Unconditional Love
We all dream of it, novels, songs and plays have been written about it and yet nobody can give you a straight definition of what it is and how you can recognize it.
Unconditional love is a vibration that resonates all throught the cosmos, the creation, our universe and all universes. It is GOD or All that Is. It is the raw material of EVERYTHING that exists, existed and will exist.
Unconditional love is the malleable force behind every particle; it extends from the smallest to the biggest.
The air around you is filled with unconditional love, which is one of the ways GOD is everywhere inside and outside you. Try some conscious breathing when you feel sad and lonely and experience the miracle by yourself.
Every particle, atom, cell in your physical body is filled with the vibration of unconditional love. And what can be more unconditional than that, cells work for us, keep our body together and we never say thanks do we? Think about your cells and get to know them and share their love. It is truly a very moving experience.
Unconditional love is what your soul gives you liberally when you finally decide to go inwards and work with it. And gosh, it is so incredible, so beautiful and so indescribable! It is a kind of feeling that when you have felt it once you have to have more and you find out that nothing in this planet of illusion can really measure up to that.
And the love of the Masters, like Lord Sananda, Lady Nada and the Divine Mother. A vibration of true ecstasy that will lift you to the light just by calling their names.
(Try saying Sananda, Sananda, Sananda....etc. it really works!)
We can not “fall in love” we are love, we just need to accept that and look for it in the temple of our own hearts where all that the universe is resides in potential.
You will say that is unattainable but it is not true. It takes work and commitment to rid yourself of the darkness within, and work integrating the personality as we have explained before, and surrendering to your real master, your beautiful and immortal soul.
Once you are prepared to let go of the illusion and pain of this world, it is really easy if you follow the advice we are giving to you. Try it, experiment, be an explorer of the inner planes. The rewards are worth a king’s ransom.
xxxxx
Love