Worlds Beyond

Well, I have to have to say, that I have to agree with some of what you have written here. Much as I love the idea of co-creating, and was a devoted 'co-creator' for many years, and I fully agree with the need to be positive in our thoughts and intentions .. I can honestly can say that in recent years I have realised that there IS something bigger, much bigger, and more powerful than all of us out together... and that sometimes things are the way they are for a reason, even if we don't understand that reason (yet).

I really dont want to pull any energies/positivity downwards, but I would just say that there have been several times and instances in my own life which made me question 'co-creation', and ultimately, I came to realise, that for me anyway, the "we are co-creators" idea/formula just didn't work or feel comfortable for me anymore....

For instance.. I had a friend, a very sincere, kind and gentle man, who did an enourmous amount to help others. He worked for charities, personally raised huge funds for hospices, and was always so humble and caring, he was also fighting fit and healthy... well, he finally met the love of his life, his soulmate, and they really were both wonderful people, but less than 3 weeks after the weding, he was diagnosed with cancer, out of the blue, and given less than 6 months to live. It was devastating. In fact, he passed within 3 months, the week before their first Christmas together, as the cancer was so aggressive. Now, how could I have ever, ever sat down and looked him in the eye and repeated my life-mantra "we create our own reality" ???

I had also realised, over time, that no matter how much I wanted to believe, and liked the idea of being 'Co-creator', that there were moments when my quiet voice was asking me questions about this line of belief/view I was championing... but I kept ignoring this voice within and it's questions/prodding.. as I was so full of hope and belief that through the whole Co-creation idea, I/people could really bring about some change/improvement in this world.

But can I ask you this... would/could you explain or uphold the "you create your own reality" line while sat infront of somebody dying of cancer? Or to the mother of a child child starving to death in Africa? Or to any of the families who have lost children in bombings or war, be it in Iraq/Afghanstan/anywhere else? Or to the people tortured and violated in this world through NO fault/action of their own? Could you tell the parents of a teenager stabbed to death on the way home from school that "we create our own reality"? Or explain it to a teenager who suffered years of abuse as a child?

I couldn't.

I suddenly realised, like the lifting of a veil of deep sleep, that maybe the whole "co-creation" thing was a false reality, a convenient construct.. designed to make us feel better/more powerful/give us a sense of control??

I truly don't say that lightly.. or flippantly.. I can't tell you the amount of days/weeks/months/years I have invested my time and energy into positive "co-creation" mode, let alone the books, tapes, courses.. yes, I had a small "co-creation" library, and used to buy books for others to help/encourage them to become "co-creators" too!

My whole own personal "Co-created" reality came crashing down around my ears a few years back, I can even pinpoint the day that my own "co-created reality" was suddenly pulled out like a rug from under my own feet .. my life was turned 180 degrees, on it's head, in a flash. I won't go into it here but put it this way.. I went from having everything I wanted/and thought I needed, to having almost nothing, besides my existence/life left .. and even that felt like it was maybe up for negotiation!! lol. But you know what.. ? I realised I suddenly understood some things I'd been stubbornly refusing to see/acknowledge through all my positive visualising and "co-creating".

Looking back, I now truly believe I was deliberately and intentionally "bumped" off the co-creation track, by some higher power/force, to wake me up to other spiritual truths and realities which I'd been blind to, as I was far too busy thinking about what "I" was going to create next and happily going along in life feeling "in control" of my reality..... "co-creating" my ideal world/outcomes/my version of utopia every day in my mind!

I was, essentially, forced to alter my beliefs and perceptions about co-creation. By something/someone "higher" and much MUCH more powerful and wise than me!! And I thank the heavens for that, or I'd still be daydreaming/affirming my way along in the "create your own reality" illusion/delusion.. and still thinking I was awake and 'doing some good' !!!

Don't get me wrong, I am a VERY positive person, and truly look for the light in every situation possible, trying to shine some light for others when I can. But hey.. put it this way.. no amount of my positive thoughts are going to save a starving child in Africa, one of the 28 who die of starvation every minute. No amount of Positive Co-creation staved off the Iraq invasion (and God knows nthat MILLIONS and millions across the world were working on averting that one!)..

please.. I am humbly and respectfully asking you all.. to try to take my words in the spirit they are intended, and take a little bit of time out .. to reflect and maybe question/re-look at the whole "co-creation" thing... I;m not saying there aren't elements of it which aren't incredibly useful or helpful, of course there are, but it's not a cure, and not a wholistic/realistic solution.... it's not that anyone is "wrong" or "right" or anything like that.. but I do believe that the whole thing is like a sleepy, comfortable, luxurious way of justifying some things, of feeling 'in control' in our lives, of trying to re-gain some sense of power as an individual in a crazy world.. and .. perhaps more worryingly, fooling ourselves into somehow falsely feeling connected in this divided, often dark and disconnected world... and.. perhaps MOST importantly, "Co-Creation" absolves us of our responsibility .. it gives us the perfect "get out" to avoid actually getting out there and DOING the things/work that REALLY needs to be done to create positive change for ALL on Earth.. (it's a bit like a "get out of Jail free" card, if someone's got problems/needs help/is in a difficult place, we can say .. well "you created your reality".. IS THAT REALLY HUMANE / SPIRITUAL / LOVING... let alone TRUE??

I'm seriously not wanting to sound like I'm preaching... I can only say these things because I can finally see (in hindsight) that these are the reasons I fell into and stayed in the Co-creation trap for so long.. and the reasons I realised it was not he right thing for me... it is a trap... it really, really is a trap... it gives a false solutionl a false sense of power to change things, a false sense of control... We "think" we're creating what's needed.. but maybe, just maybe, we need to understand and learn a little more humility.. and recognise that we are, after all, tiny specks in the cosmos, important and precious specks, with a purpose, but tiny specks all the same!!

Only the Creator/Universal Power/God (depending upon your beliefs) knows this truth, the truth of what is TRULY needed, for ourselves, our progression, our evolution, both individually and as a planet... we are always sent what we TRULY need, eventually, for our souls evolution, not what we "think" we need.... there is a higher power who DOES know what we need.. and often tries to guide/show us.. but how many really listen?

But hey, these are just my views... Life is a big learning process, and we each have our own path.. I learned from my mistakes on this stuff... but that's maybe part of my personal journey... maybe "co-creation" just wasn't the right path for me and that's why I got flung off it so resoundingly??!

Blessings to all!