I didn't read any other post but went right to reply. I hear you, been there. My personal solution has been to become somewhat detacted. I let go of the situation and allow. I observe. I just don't get myself all tangled up in it anymore. I observe and make choices.
It's kind of like living in a B movie or a maze sometimes.
Consider yourself all wrapped up in a nice warm blanket, in front of the fire with your favorite right next to you.