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Shellie · 10-08-2008, 02:32 AM

I agree that your sister-in-law probably suffers from self esteem and anxiety issues.

If she is clueless as to what is really going on, then this will get MUCH worse in the short-term. If/when that happens you need to accept her and take care of her, but make it clear that if her behavior and attitude is dragging everyone else down to the point of being a danger to the group, she may be cut off.

Now, what you can do to help prevent that is to giver her a job. Just give her one or two very easy and manageable jobs and make sure that she is the only one to do it- no one else. This can help her self-esteem, make her feel valuable to the group, and make her a little more active/responsible for herself and less of a "victim".

10-08-2008, 02:32 AM	#24
Shellie Banned Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Austin, Texas Posts: 267	Re: Dealing with the Negative People in our Survival Groups I agree that your sister-in-law probably suffers from self esteem and anxiety issues. If she is clueless as to what is really going on, then this will get MUCH worse in the short-term. If/when that happens you need to accept her and take care of her, but make it clear that if her behavior and attitude is dragging everyone else down to the point of being a danger to the group, she may be cut off. Now, what you can do to help prevent that is to giver her a job. Just give her one or two very easy and manageable jobs and make sure that she is the only one to do it- no one else. This can help her self-esteem, make her feel valuable to the group, and make her a little more active/responsible for herself and less of a "victim".