Unfortunately, there is no "one" answer to your question. There are a lot of us here who have family members who are completely deaf, blind and unwilling to know anything about what is going on. The one thing we must remember though, is that we cannot MAKE anyone see, wake up, or understand. While I sympathize with your situation, it is the same situation most people are in.
The really sad part is that no matter what you do to help them, they need to help themselves. Patience and resources might become taxed to the max and while groups need to stick together for support, the people who are going to make it through this will do so because of their SELF SUFFICIENCY. So with that in mind, concentrate on what you can do for yourself and your household and use that as a demonstration for others. Seeing dedication might help make reality sink in for them.
First of all, I am almost sure there is a thread in the Ground Crew Networking/USA section for people in N. Carolina. Start hooking up!
Next, check out what I posted here on purchasing food:
http://www.projectavalon.net/forum/s...ead.php?t=3893.
If you have considerable savings, start getting it out of dollars. Many people are buying gold and silver; those that don't have that much are buying food, seeds, survival gear etc. You need to prioritize what is right for YOU.
Should you stay vs. go: this again depends on your situation. If you are in a major city, it is best to get out- even if that means literally "heading for the hills". If you are in a rural area, you could consider staying. The best advice for EVERYONE is to be mobile, flexible, and ready. Keep your gas tank in your car full at all times, keep a bug-out-bag prepared, and have various plans for various situations.
Take care of yourself! Eat good healthy foods, get exercise, take care of stress. Involve yourself in spiritual pursuits and stay calm. If you are calm and know what is going on then you can be pro-active, not REactive.
Learn. Learn, learn, learn! This forum and the internet in general is an excellent source of knowledge- lost knowledge of alternative energy, growing foods etc. Never stop learning!