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hello margueritebee ...

i love your avatar btw ...

service to others ... where is that fine line of our assistance being taken for granted ...

if we are feeling we are being used ... then we are ...
only we can feel what we do ... others cannot tell us it is not so ...

ego then steps in and tries to make logic of it ... and sometimes it is so ... sometimes we really are not being realistic ... for example if we are in denial or in fear ... usually facilitated by old patterns clouding what really is ...

but for myself ... over a period of a lifetime of experiencing same ... i have come to know ... only the heart speaks truth ... after we have stepped out of the box ... and have become the observer ... and have located what actually is ... and if our heart still feels the denseness of this unbalance ... and especially if it is continuous ... then it is time to consciously take measures in the moment ... to give of our heart ... but to also come to recognize ... there are others who will take from us ... our energy ... over and above what we initially desired to give from our hearts ...

and for myself ... this has been a constant learning ... years and years worth ... finally realizing my own contribution in these situations ... does not only deplete me of my energy ... but my consistant assistance to an endless taker ... is not doing them a world of good either ... allowing my own self to become unbalanced ... weary and depleted always ... also does not facilitate the other to become sovereign in their own right ... they have learned very little re self sufficiency and such ...

thereby ... changes have to be made ...

some very good posts here suggesting how to do this ... about allowing others to empower their own selves which at the same time empowers us ...

service to others is wonderful ... but the balance must also be found in service to self ...
if we find ourselves continuously giving of our energy ... and it becomes such that we come to feel used ... and at times abused by the scenario ...
then we have lost the balance of service to self as well ...

i now recognize ... service to others also includes the self ... it is about balance ...
when the scales get tipped ... the heart feels this ... then it is once again time to step outside the box ... become the observer ... locate where the balance lacks ...
and then change it ...
and if a specific scenario has carried on for some time ... the change we make to benefit all ... will sometimes feel of pain in itself ...
but if we recognize realistically what is ... then we will also recognize this to be temporary ... and only good can follow beyond ...

i'm not quite there yet with this learning ... but every moment ... every experience ... i come closer to keeping the energy ... balanced ...

does the heart feel free ...
if not ... why not ...