[bashi]

I decided to go through the 3 weeks process, as described by Jasmuheen.

I arranged my live, so that I had a minimum of 4 weeks time for the process. If you consider to start the process, then you will need assistance, just in case. This assistant I will name as “birther”. You should be in an absolute retreat during the process, so you need a birther , somebody who will come regularly on a daily basis to check during the process that everything is OK with you.

The outer frame has to be set properly:
There should be:
- No work requirements for you during the time of the process
- a room or place only for yourself; best would be a flat/house with only you living there during the process.
-,there should not be any contact or visit from other persons, except for the “birther”
- no TV, radio, telephone, internet or other communication. Make sure none of these gadgets will disturb you.
- get a new mobile number for contact to your birther by you. Nobody else should know the number. The birther should not use the number to call you; only you shall call in case of emergency.


The first practical steps are:

You have to think how your friends/family can react and prepare them for it with a discussion. Keep the circle of people knowing about it as small as possible. Inform only people which can understand or except your decision and are not trying to persuade you by all means not to proceed. If you have a family, then you should only proceed if your partner can accept that.

On the other hand: You have the right to your own spiritual development, and people associated with you should respect that and should not call your desire egoistical:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=njPvuu4MSCI


The visiting time of the birther should not exceed 30 minutes to one hour. No smalltalk during the visit, only the necessities will be attended to.

It can be also very good if you have additionally a guide/consultant through the process. It should be a person who has gone already through the process and might give you some reassurance or explanation. You will only be able to contact the consultant through your birther, either by a mobile phone which the birther will bring and take with him/her, or by oral Q/A with the answers been brought back the next day. A consultant can be helpful, but is not required.

Normally your only contact should be the birther.

Its not easy to be a birther: He/She will witness your process most likely for the first time and has not been prepared for it like you have prepared yourself. You have to chose a person on which you can rely on, not just somebody. That person should be a warm, caring person who knows you well. It should be a person who is very close to you, mentally stable and very reliable.
I had asked my former long-time girlfriend to be my birther, because we continued to be very good friends. But it was still very hard for her to see my rapid weight-loss. Later she revealed that she was a little bit afraid to come at the end of the first week of the process, because she was afraid that she might open the door and find a corpse.
The daily visit by the birther is absolute essential during the first week of the process, because mostly it’s the hardest part.

Do not try to start the process alone without a birther. It can be very risky.
For example: My blood pressure was very low during the process and it was dangerous if I stood up too quick. I made that mistake in the 2nd week, became unconscious for a second, and fell like a tree. Luckily i got only minor bruises, but you can injure yourself badly in this way. If you have no birther, then you can be in serious trouble.