[greybeard]

Hi Im male but have had to deal with my frustration anger for similar reasons that you expressed.
What worked for me is the information in Eckhart Tolle's book " The Power of Now"

This might seem hard but if you are angry in this relationship the chances are high that you will be angry in any other one.

When you are newly awakened everything that is not spiritual comes up within you to be released. A partner is just a trigger for the emotions you expressed and I experienced.
If I did not have that within me it couldent have come up.

Wishing you all the best, its not easy.
Chris