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Originally Posted by BROOK
Winter Wolf, you may not have seen it, but there were enough members here to see, that since that incident..that I showed absolutely "no fear" of these jokers.
They hold no power or fear over me.
Fuel to the fire? I'm only addressing the posts in this thread.
There was one nagging thing that was bothering me for about a week now..
but I got my answer...and all I can say is.....GAME OVER
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Brook
I certainly saw it. The exact quote and entire post was from arcora (now banned) - it is still on the forum actually in your Energy Vampires thread.
"nobody wants your energy brook...you're dying. "
http://www.projectavalon.net/forum/s...7&postcount=41
Now I agree that this is an awful sounding thing to say to someone but it is not a threat. It is simply an opinion. It is not marking someone for death either. It is far to easy to mix up this one with some of the other posts from members who apparently friends with arcora who stated: "Your soul is marked" or some such things.
Ultimately all the people on this forum are just that. People. Some can't get along and wont play respectfully - something which is demanded in the forum guidelines. If they dont stop they get stopped.
@All: On respect
This is addressed at everyone on this forum from Bill and Kerry downwards.
Brook I am not making a big deal out of this small point to single you out in particular, but as an example of the type of thing I see on here: referring to "these jokers" exhibits some, albeit mild, prejudice. I wish we could all stop calling people names, derogatory things - just speak plainly. I use this only as an example - there are others, sorry I picked on yours.
If I was one of "these jokers" - a group of friends - and you referred to me as a "joker" I suppose I would probably fight back - hard - and my friends would join in - and that's where the problems start. That is why we have ongoing problems with the banned people making accounts and trying to get back in under different aliases. All based on lack of respect.
Did Tango show any respect? Nope - he made (maybe even potentially innocently - its irrelevant now) a remark that could be construed as sexual in nature at Nykki.
Nykki probably doesnt know that Tango very often doesnt speak in complete sentences and has a cryptic manner that made her posts look like beautiful flowing prose by comparison, and his masonic "G" (G-Spot) reference was confused by interpretation. Consequently my entire last three days of forum management activity has been spend dealing with that issue and its fallout.
It could have been solved with an apology or an explanation. It was not. It still could be actually - theres a hope...
The moderator on point GaiaLove acted as moderators do. He put the fire out but it has not solved the underlying problem. Lack of respect. When moderators take action and deploy power - it invariably causes side-effects. Raises the bar of bad feeling. Someone like me understands this because I have been moderating on-line discussions since before the internet, back in the days of dialup modems - BBS's and compuserve. Lots of people on this forum were not even born. I see how it works.
It wasnt fair that Tango's post was not deleted along with all the ensuing flamewar. I missed it. It is deleted now. There is a case for GaiaLove to apologise though in my eyes that is less important.
They (Scarab/Aloe/Nykki & Co.) were not shown respect. Especially Nykki. Do you think they deserved any respect?
Well guess what ? I do.
Even if we had a leathery winged demon from the depths of the abyss posting here, they deserve respect. Even if it was Saddam Hussein / George Bush / name your villains here... - same applies. Even if it was your worst enemy. This is a forum. It is only words - but they are words that are your power, your creation and all I want to see and continue to fight for is that power deployed with love and respect.
I know I am probably in the minority here - and this is not my forum so I dont always get my own way - but respect is the one shining part of the forum guidelines that will ensure our continued survival as a group. It is all I ask now - it is all that is needed.
"These Jokers" think they deserve an apology. They might even be right. Things got out of hand. The moderators have decided they will not be allowed back. Thats now the way it is right now and we will do our best. On reflection I think to some extent this is a cop out. So I am raising the subject one last time.
Yes we have seen calls to "just ignore the trolls". I think that is a naive idea and it wont work. It never works.
I dont want you to ignore them. I want you to treat them with respect - even people who are determined to be troublemakers in the eyes of the majority- as the forum guidelines insist. If you don't things go south very quickly.
Everyone on this forum deserves respect.
It is mandatory on this forum.
I think though I ask too much. Do you?
I think the future of this forum is in the balance on this singular issue.
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PS: I amended the thread title to avoid singling out people.