[futureyes]

hello instead ... here are my simple thoughts ...

living pretentiously like nothing happened is not the way to be ...
the pretentiousness down the road ... i feel will grow ... negative feelings ... may fester ...

i feel ... a resolve must be made ... the energy which becomes of the two of you is also energy rippled amongst everyone else involved ... whether they feel it ... or not ...

your self ... as the higher vibrational energy in this case ... could make a once and for all ... true attempt ... to set the situation of the surface straight ... and neutralize which is now leaning greatly to denseness ...

choose a time ... perhaps just prior to the time of sleep ...
call him ... speak to him from your heart ... speak what it is you feel ... do not involve anyone else into your conversation ... just speak of the impact this is upon your self ... speak how you felt then when it occurred ... and why ... and how it is affecting you now ... three years later ...
simply speak your truth ... from your heart ...

and you will either hear what it is you want to hear from him ... an apology ... and heal from his words ...

or you must also be prepared ... that after speaking from your heart ... your ears may not hear what your heart desires ...

and if this is the case ... then you your self forgive him ... and in doing so ... you will also heal from it ...

if you have TRULY spoken from your heart in those moments ... and he remains where he has been ... know that it is ok ... know that he then is not at a place spiritually ... to have taken a good look within ... and felt ... how his words pained you back then ... that at this time ... he is not capable of doing so ... but perhaps ... that such a time will arrive in the future ...

and for you ... to hold that space open for that to occur ... but not expect it ... it is our expectations of another ... that may not be fulfilled ... which cause us our own pain ...

if this happens to be the case ... then in your heart ... forgive him and release yourself of this emotion you have been living with ...

no ... it is not fair ... he SHOULD realize ... the situation at hand ...
but maybe he won't ... but it is also not fair ... that you live pretentiously every holiday season like this ... it is unfair to you ...

either way ... release your self of your expectations ... heal your self ... leave the space open for your wife's father to heal his self ... whenever is the appropriate time for him ...

perhaps it will be so immediately ... oh yeah ...
or perhaps he will ... after he speaks to you ... retire to sleep ... and seek his truth ... through higher self ... on another plane ...
and in the morning ... come to know that truth ... and who knows ... perhaps when you get together this year ... he will say something to you ...

but if it doesn't happen ... know you are ok without his apology ...
because you are ... and always will be ...

that is HIS work ... allow him to do so ...

all is well ... when our expectations are released ... and we know ... we will be just fine ... with or without ... what our ego desires ...

happy holidays!