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waitinginthewings · 12-21-2009, 07:37 PM

This is always a sticky problem. I would maybe forgive him, & move beyond it. Its better imo to have harmonious family relations than to let some dispecretful words continue on. between you. Try to understand where this person is coming from, his views of the world.....if he is not awake yet......then forgiveness is easier. Invite them for dinner, check out the energy of the situation, & see if an opportunity presents itself for you to have a private conversation with this person. Maybe you could apologise to him for something that somehow was misunderstood or some action taken that caused hurt. This elder probably is not able to open up his own feelings and apologise, so to clear things....it may fall on your shoulders.

these are just my thoughts on your problem....others may have a better solution. But I think it is better for all souls if this problem is healed.

12-21-2009, 07:37 PM	#3
waitinginthewings Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: BC. Canada Posts: 1,340	Re: Asking your advice on handling stressful holiday relatives This is always a sticky problem. I would maybe forgive him, & move beyond it. Its better imo to have harmonious family relations than to let some dispecretful words continue on. between you. Try to understand where this person is coming from, his views of the world.....if he is not awake yet......then forgiveness is easier. Invite them for dinner, check out the energy of the situation, & see if an opportunity presents itself for you to have a private conversation with this person. Maybe you could apologise to him for something that somehow was misunderstood or some action taken that caused hurt. This elder probably is not able to open up his own feelings and apologise, so to clear things....it may fall on your shoulders. these are just my thoughts on your problem....others may have a better solution. But I think it is better for all souls if this problem is healed.