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Originally Posted by w0rm
So, a few months back I stumbled across this website and spirituality for the first time. I read everything I could get my hands on, practiced meditation and did indeed feel rather, well... happy with myself (which is a big accomplishment, trust me).
Admittedly, I don't go out a lot (a fear of mine). Though, with this newfound self-acceptance I felt the urge to confront said fear.
However, instead of blocking out negativity and returning it with love I began to draw it in - and once again it took over my life. I stopped reading things I'd found interesting weeks prior, stopped meditating, dropped everything and returned to 'myself'.
As far back as I can recall I've always been a pessimist, an over-thinker with an intrinsic fear of the judgement of others. Is it possible this is just me? Something that can't be permanently changed?
What I'm trying to ask is should I be actively trying to change my outlook, or merely begin to accept myself for who I am?
What would you do?
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Dear Om
I have removed the W and r, if you wish you can do the same.
Thoughts are really like passing clouds, notice only the ones that have a silver lining, the rest are irrelevant.
This takes practice.
Having experienced deep depression and the acompanying negativity I have empathy with you.
To the good you have experienced happiness and that as you have said is a great accomplishment, so you know it is within your ability to be happy.
There are many things you can do to regain and mainrtain good spirit and frame of mind.
Positive thinking and spirituality are virtually from the same source.
If you havent read "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle I would recomend that. Cds by him are also excellent.
Uplifting music is good at changing mood.
Its important to get some exercise, mind and body are closly linked.
Im 64 and go to the gym regularly and that dosent have to be extreme, the council run ones are quite cheap.
They do an exercise prog for and encourage you.
You might be short of Selinium in the brain, go to Holland and Barret or similar and they could recomend an uplifting supliment.
Is your house in need of a little decorating, coluors are uplifting.
Buy pot plants if you havent any.
Start a positive thinking group in your area, or join a meditation one.
Its good to have and be with positive people you can relate to.
There is allready good advice for you on this thread.
The fact that you asked for this is also a great step forward.
the only thing to be feared is fear.
Love and fear cant co-exist.
For me there is no situation that enough Love cant overcome and that comes eventually through meditaion.
Do your best to get back to doing that which has allready worked for you.
Wishing you well
Chris