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Originally Posted by beren
Really how do you do it?
Do you sometimes feel like me,when talking with some people for a bit longer time-you feel drained out of energy and tired...
Or you feel wonderful and want to share that with your close ones and boom! You hit the wall of negativity ...
I think being negative just brings you some sort of pain. And after awhile the pain gets kinda inbeded in your thinking...
I am not reffering when talking about being positive to be like lalalalalala birds are singing and all is happy...
But rather being truly bright and positive person,changing pain around and inside of you into hapiness-a genuine one!  |
Interesting thread...thanks
For me it depends what the conversation is about.
If it is a mundane conversation, such as, the weather, I quickly begin fading out
If someone is pooping their drama in my ear....I feel drained, especially if it is an emotive story I have heard from them before and have tried to help them see a different view, but they clearly want to suffer with it, or BE RIGHT and blame another instead of being responsible for what happened, not like it is their fault, but by allowing an experience to drain them of their power.
If it is a person that always emits negative energy or is an energy vampire I steer clear of them.
If it is a conversation about quantum physics or archetypal energies or anything that makes my brain bigger and vibrant, like this thread, I am energized by it.
When I was deep in my shadow work years ago I had an insight that "my happiness" was a patterned response and had nothing to do with me being really happy. I was brought up that if you were a happy girl you received more love and attention so I was happy.
After I saw this for myself, I realized my happiness did not stem on outside influences or 'getting something' back, such as love or attention. I also realized that I cannot 'make' anyone happy. This was huge for me as I was a fixer. Little did I know at the time that this is truly the height of arrogance and control over another to think I would know what is best for them even under the guise of being helpful and kind! This is how clever the ego is!
When I am happy now it is a deeply experienced emotion because I feel it from within as a consequence of who I AM rather than an external source that may or may not be present, so I don't depend on life to show up a certain way for me to be happy.
The best part is the freedom to be unhappy sometimes too!
I think negative thinking can be habitual and part of 'monkey mind', especially if you heard a lot of negative remarks as a child growing up. It is part of learning how to manage your mind instead of it managing you.
We cannot really control the mind and if you think it's easy tell your mind to stop thinking about pink elephants right now. It's the mind's job to think, think, and think some more, just like the heart's job it to beat and your eyes to see.
I feel it is about awareness and being aware when negative thoughts come up. Just the simple act of noticing them already has huge potential in changing them.
Then you can focus on what they are saying to you. You may even be surprised to hear your mother's voice! They say the longest conversation we have ever had is with ourself! That certainly puts it into perspective!
Love & Light,
Truth