[pyrangello]

HJ , I am the person in a motorcycle association of 50,000 who takes care of the funerals for this group, sends cards to the families and have been in situations where only a few hours prior a man or woman has lost their spouse in a bike accident. There tough moments , words are only blurbs in those monents of shock.

Over the years that I have been in this position I can truly say that there is no consistant flow to the grieving process. Facts in the grieving process for averages are 18 months beginning to end. The real fact from my experiences is that each and every person that passes away that we had some type of relationship in our life is also a different level of grieving. None are the same, we react to each and every person differently, and frankly the most abrupt deaths can hit you like a train wreck.

The fact that you didn't have much contact with Carole in the last few years does not lesson the importance and value that you recognized in your friend.
Those times are remembered, and your own special grieving process of remembrance is very honorable in the fact that you are saying goodbye in this world. For the ones that passed, they are around in so many special ways,mind and spirit. I personally don't think you ever stop grieving and as my one friend told me long ago " the pain never goes away , it just gets easier to live with".

So let me say respectively, On behalf of the Avalon Ground Crew Family, prayers and condolences to Carole , her family , friends , and close students .
May Carole be flying high with the angels and smiling down on you HJ saying yes there is no more pain and everything is good now. Rest in peace Carole!