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Camery · 05-01-2009, 03:03 PM

Thank you for being easy on me Unified Serenity.

I respect your opinion a lot, as well as your ability to seek the truth.

I have become hard nosed in one respect over time. It is in my defense of the way I choose to go. It is poverty for my way to be so threatening to others. All of us have free will to choose and do as we feel is our direction.

I disagree so far as to follow in another direction but also accept that many others do not agree with me. It would be so much better if we could simply agree to disagree rather than go into all of these arguments.

I think corporal punishment is very needed when it becomes necessary but it is also good to remember that our children have our genes therefore our faults, so when we need to spank them, we are spanking out of them the very wrongs we assisted in putting in them. For this reason it should be with deep regret in which it is necessary to do this. As long as it is possible we should use our ability to reason with our children over what is right or wrong about their actions and be as willing to praise their efforts as to condemn what they do.

Another thing people don't pay much attention to which does a lot of damage is what comes after 12 years old. On the child's 12th birthday, he/she is an adult and this should be voiced to them. However, they lack the experiences of an adult, so there must be the agreement between the parent and child that he/she must correctly learn the proper role of an adult. This must be understood as a partnership in which the new adult is in a different kind of school in which they learn and ask questions and the parent must be willing to talk without embarrassment about even very personal subjects. The new adult is no longer spanked for their wrongs but they must understand the consequences of each action until they leave home and enter their own role, no longer being under a tutor, and the parents must let them go with love and understanding.

Teenagers are going to seek their own identity whether the parents agree or not and this is their right. Being more of a partner and much less a disciplinarian makes the transition much easier for both. And of course having more discipline in their younger years makes this process much better for both.

These things are not set in stone and I am not trying to tell others how to live. It is simply the way I see it and I hope there is something here that may be helpful.

Thanks United Serenity for your understanding.

05-01-2009, 03:03 PM	#6
Camery Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 8	Re: Very odd dream Thank you for being easy on me Unified Serenity. I respect your opinion a lot, as well as your ability to seek the truth. I have become hard nosed in one respect over time. It is in my defense of the way I choose to go. It is poverty for my way to be so threatening to others. All of us have free will to choose and do as we feel is our direction. I disagree so far as to follow in another direction but also accept that many others do not agree with me. It would be so much better if we could simply agree to disagree rather than go into all of these arguments. I think corporal punishment is very needed when it becomes necessary but it is also good to remember that our children have our genes therefore our faults, so when we need to spank them, we are spanking out of them the very wrongs we assisted in putting in them. For this reason it should be with deep regret in which it is necessary to do this. As long as it is possible we should use our ability to reason with our children over what is right or wrong about their actions and be as willing to praise their efforts as to condemn what they do. Another thing people don't pay much attention to which does a lot of damage is what comes after 12 years old. On the child's 12th birthday, he/she is an adult and this should be voiced to them. However, they lack the experiences of an adult, so there must be the agreement between the parent and child that he/she must correctly learn the proper role of an adult. This must be understood as a partnership in which the new adult is in a different kind of school in which they learn and ask questions and the parent must be willing to talk without embarrassment about even very personal subjects. The new adult is no longer spanked for their wrongs but they must understand the consequences of each action until they leave home and enter their own role, no longer being under a tutor, and the parents must let them go with love and understanding. Teenagers are going to seek their own identity whether the parents agree or not and this is their right. Being more of a partner and much less a disciplinarian makes the transition much easier for both. And of course having more discipline in their younger years makes this process much better for both. These things are not set in stone and I am not trying to tell others how to live. It is simply the way I see it and I hope there is something here that may be helpful. Thanks United Serenity for your understanding.