[Jacqui D]

It would be nice to think that we are all the same but we are not!
There will always be someone quicker than you, stronger, intellectually more clever so forth so forth.
It would be a strange world if we were all the same but saying that i know what Carmen means. This striving to be better does not feel right for me.

I remember well when my kids were small i use to loathe their school sports day.Whilst my two sons loved the competitions because they simply loved running my daughter who found the whole thing boring use to hate every minute of it but was forced to take part knowing that she would get no where in the races but did try bless her.
Whilst the winners would all get their winners badge the runners up were ignored and not even praised for trying and the one that always came last was almost boooooed.

Thank goodness today the same school to which my grandson now attends has changed it's attitude and now has a strict rule with the tiny ones that they all receive a badge and the winner wins points for their house team.
more sensible i feel leaving those who are less able to compete in these races feeling a little more like they tried and less like they failed.

But of course the older children still have to do their bit so although age has lessened the blow for some it seems to catch you up again as you go up in years.
I really have no answer to this one but this is an interesting thread i feel because their are pros and cons for this discussion.