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How Energy Vampires Drain Your Spirit

11 Ways to Protect Yourself From Negative Influences


Energy vampires drain your spirit by depleting your positive energy, just like real vampires slurp blood. Energy vampires - such as drama queens - leave you feeling drained and listless, but these eleven ways to protect yourself from negative influences will help!
After a visit with an energy vampire, you barely have enough energy to watch tv - much pursue your goals or take care of your responsibilities. The energy vampire's negative influences have consumed your positive energy.
How Energy Vampires Drain Your Spirit

Energy vampires drain positive energy in many ways, such as:

• Intruding on your life, ignoring boundaries and privacy (energy vampires don't think of you).
• Making big deals out of nothing. Energy vampires are often called "drama queens" because they can easily turn a broken nail into a Shakespearean tragedy. Negative energy spreads from everyday events.
• Complaining constantly about their partners, jobs, children, bad luck, and illnesses. Energy vampires like to vent.
• Criticizing your hair, appearance, job, children, partner, friends, and pets (energy vampires aren't positive).
• Not taking "no" for an answer. Energy vampires don't consider your needs.
• Being unrelentingly negative. Their negative energy is relentless, and energy vampires drain your positive energy by encouraging you to be negative, too.
• Blaming everyone else for their problems (energy vampires don't take responsibility).

How Energy Vampires Drain Energy & Why You Feel Depressed After a Conversation

You know you've spent time with an energy vampire when you leave feeling depressed, exhausted, or sad. Energy vampires drain your positive energy for their own use. Energy vampires leave you feeling empty and sluggish – and to compensate or build positive energy you may eat, drink, shop, or sleep for hours afterwards.
Energy Vampires Need Your Positive Energy

Energy vampires come in all shapes and sizes: loud and aggressive, soft-spoken and shy, charming and seductive, pushy and overbearing. Energy vampires have energy leaks that they need to fill. It's up to you to stop energy vampires from draining your positive energy. Often energy vampires don't even realize they're bleeding you dry. Energy vampires have often suffered some sort of crisis, whether in childhood or adulthood, and they're compensating to get rid of their negative energy. Energy vampires may not be deliberately, maliciously stealing your positive energy -- but they're definitely not contributing to a fantastic relationship.
Energy Vampires may drain positive energy, but you can learn to stop them!


11 Ways to Protect Yourself From Energy Vampires:

1. Limit the amount of time you spend with energy vampires. The less time you're together, the less positive energy you'll lose.
2. Learn effective ways to end conversations with energy vampires (eg, I only have ten minutes to talk.")
3. Stay calm and detached from energy vampires. Don't let their negative energy consume you.
4. Be honest about your needs (eg, "I need this time to work/read/relax/exercise.")
5. Refrain from attempting to rescue them or fix an energy vampire's problems.
6. Practice walking away from energy vampires.; the more you do it, the easier it gets.
7. Limit eye contact with energy vampires.
8. Avoid being in close spaces with energy vampires (elevators, cars, etc). Negative energy is catching.
9. Define and guard your personal space from energy vampires.
10. Tell energy vampires you feel uncomfortable discussing particular people or circumstances.
11. Stand up for yourself and your boundaries! Your time, positive energy, and resources are precious and should be closely guarded from energy vampires.

http://psychology.suite101.com/artic...nergy_vampires

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Brook... totally true! :thumb_yello:

Can I add another defense mechanism to state back to an energy vampire?

12. That may be true for you but it's not for me!

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Yeah I know people like this.

This is why I keep them at arm's length nowadays and I no longer fear confronting them about their problems if needed.

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:thumb_yello: I agree. And PS Christo888... love the new avatar :original:

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Add Away! Yes..there are many more ideas out there :thumb_yello:

Any other good ideas to avoid these vampires? :naughty:

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Thanks Angel... and that day will soon come!:original:

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Yes I agree Brook these are the mechanics at work in the behavioral pattern of the people
displaying such an impaired energy balance that they like to utilize or prevent you from using
your own.

The points you have outlined below will indeed help in keeping your own space ...your own
territory safe..

Now it is good to bring to consciousness that the practice of the experience of your primordial state as a soul ...your natural timeless awareness also called " Great perfection " is extremely beneficial in dealing with daily life.
His holiness the dalai Lama says "This is because that kind of experience will give you the ability to prevent yourself from being overwhelmed by circumstances, good or bad. You will not fall into extreme states of mind: you will not get over-excited or depressed. Your attitude toward circumstances and events will be as if you were someone observing the mind, without being drawn away by circumstances.

For example, when you see a reflection of a form in a mirror, the reflection appears within the mirror but it is not projected from within. In the same way, when you confront the situations of life, or deal with others, your attitude too will be mirror-like.

Also, when a reflection appears in the mirror, the mirror does not have to go after the object that is reflected: it simply reflects, spontaneously, on the surface. The same with you: since there is no attachment or agitation at having these 'reflections' in your mind, you will feel tremendous ease and relief. You are not preoccupied by what arises in the mind, nor does it cause you any distress. You are free from conceptuality or any form of objectifying. And so it really does help you, in allowing you to be free from being caught up in the play of emotions like hatred, attachment, and the like. "

--from Dzogchen: The Heart Essence of the Great Perfection by His Holiness the Dalai Lama

Love Always
mudra

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When I picture an 'energy vampire' what comes to mind is some ghastly thin, pallid human feverishly trying to drain your life-force.

Though, from my personal view I take this topic with a pinch of salt. Because in my mind these 'energy vampires' are just... negative people, and that's all there is to it.

I think in general the word 'vampire' conjures up negativity, the media's portrayal of any type of vampire is, in essence evil.

So perhaps a good way of dealing with these types of people would be to instead of picturing them as a vampire of sorts, instead view them as a soul that has yet to start the path of awakening, enlightenment.

Counter their pessimism with positivity, allow your benevolence to shine through and you might find these inherently negative people tend not to bother you so much.

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More ways to deal with Energy Vampires


Ground Yourself

The first important step when facing energy vampires is to ground yourself. To ground yourself is to center yourself such that you do not get easily affected or swayed by negative energies around you. If you have studied Physics before, the concept is similar to the grounding in electrical appliances.

Shield yourself

The next step is to shield yourself. A shield is like a bubble around you that separates you and the world; it’s like your energy barrier which keeps out any forms of undesirable energy from entering into your space. Like a real shield, your shield is a defense tool which protects you from aggressors or attacks from outside. It keeps your energy within you and prevents it from getting sucked by the energy vampire.

A shield is not permanent. The energy of the shield wears off over time, which lowers its ability to protect you. In the face of negative people trying to leech off your energy, the shield’s defense ability can be quickly depleted. The more negative the person is, the weaker the shield becomes. When it reaches a point where the shield’s energy is fully depleted, it will cease to function. To avoid that from happening, you should constantly check to ensure your shield is present and upkeep it where needed. It is important not to overly rely on the shield to protect you from such attacks; ultimately you should be well grounded enough.


Think about the people you face daily. Which of them are energy vampires? How did you handle them in the past? Work through some of the steps described in the above post and here..then see how your energy returns :thumb_yello:

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A Spiritual Shielding Technique - Psychic Self Defense

The physical body is surrounded with spiritual energy, the aura. The aura is a dynamic living entity, part of the physical self, yet separate to the extent in which it interacts invisibly with our surroundings and other energy forms. The aura is the energetic embodiment of the soul or spiritual self.

The physical mind can be taught to reshape spiritual energy form into a psychic shield, a protective bubble which does not allow harmful energy to reach the inner core of the soul where it can do the most damage.

The process is quite simple and is strengthened through practice. Begin with the simple meditation routine described on page ten of this book. During the course of your meditation visualize your aura as a vibrating field of light energy. The field of energy extends outward a few inches from the surface of your skin.

Your life energy vibrates and swirls around you at all times, coming into contact with all manner of other life energies, both positive and negative. Now imagine the energy of your aura forming the shape of a protective globe of brilliant light. Negative thought and intentions in the form of red light as well as dark energy attempt to corrupt your spiritual existence. Within the protection of your light energy globe, negative influences bounce off, are deflected and returned to their original source.

Make a practice of visualizing the creation of your protective energy shield at the start of every meditation session. With repetition the strength of your psychic shield is increased and can eventually be called up at will. Rely on your shield at any time that you feel under the influence of psychic assault. This technique for calling up a protective barrier against even the strongest of negative energies whenever it is needed, involves connecting the mind, body and spirit instantly to create a powerful protective energy barrier.

Once you have familiarized your self with the meditative technique of visualizing a protective bubble you should be able to summon this shield without the assistance of meditation. Simply focus your mind on the act of creating the shield. While your mind is focused on creating the shield, use your hands to close the energy conduit of your aura. In a very real sense, you and every other living creature are both a source and a conductor of energy. You are in constant and direct connection with the energy of all things.

The physical act of closing the hands has the effect of closing a circuit. You are closing the circuit of your life energy while still remaining connected to the energy of the universe. The combination of closing the life energy circuit and creating a protective aura shield is the most powerful tool available for combating a psychic attack. This maneuver not only defends the spiritual self, it sends the negative energy of an attack directly back to its origin. The attacker sees his own negative energy returned only with more momentum and force than was originally created. Practice visualizing the instant creation of an aura shield; imagine with as much detail as possible the protective energy of your spirit blossoming outward to form an impenetrable barrier.

Now combine this visualization with the act of closing the hands. Hold your hands a few inches apart, as if you were about to clap or begin a prayer. Try to feel the energy of your aura between your hands. Many people report feeling a slightly warm sensation when performing this procedure. Pay attention to whatever sensations you may be feeling at this moment. Now, press your hands together, and as you do visualize the energy of your aura being compressed between your hands. As you compress the aura it forms a globe which surrounds your entire body.

The physical act of clasping the hands to temporarily close your life energy circuit and visualizing the protective aura are instantaneous. Practice this technique until it feels completely natural. One of the greatest advantages of this psychic defense technique is that it can be used discretely. This seemingly simple hand gesture can be used in almost any public situation without drawing attention to the fact that you are combating negative psychic energy. When confronted with any form of threatening energy, this technique offers an incredibly powerful and stealthy defense.


This is one way to shield...but there are many ways to visualize such a shield. I highly recommend using a shield for the purpose of not letting others drain your energy.....you need it :thumb_yello:

Yes Lionhawk...Spirit 101.

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Energy vampires where just a theory to me until I tested it. At work and sitting at my desk I imagined vital energy leaving this one person and coming to me. A few minutes later I got up and walked by her desk and she looked ghastly, all gray and pale. I felt real bad about it and went back to my desk and sent her energy back to her with a little extra. A few mintes after that I walked by her again and her color was back. I don't think she was aware of it. I vowed I would never do such a thing again.

I learned from that and always try to remember to keep my shield on full force when needed.

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Wear garlic around your neck! LOL

OK, just kidding. I just laugh at them, that's how I avoid letting energy vampires get to me and that's how I stay grounded.

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:roll1::roll1::roll1::roll1::roll1::roll1:


When you go Christmas shopping and you see those people with sample perfume sprays, run like hell.


:roll1::roll1::roll1::roll1::roll1::roll1:

Good one Dan! You're to much! :thumb_yello:

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To each their own.

Speaking personally (what's personal to me may not be to you), I pay no heed to 'energy vampires'.

I have never encountered one (to my knowledge) and I have been about all manner of, for lack of a better terms, distasteful people.

In my mind they're the misconstrued conception stemming from overly paranoid folk, and if thinking like this prevents me from feeling low and drained by these ultimately negative people then so be it.

Regardless, I know most people on this forum aren't on my wave length most of the time, though I do like to voice my opinion - albeit occasionally.

I'd say for the most part, if in your world these 'energy vampires' are running rampant, and that's what you positively believe they are then BROOK's advice is indeed very helpful.

So kudos. :original:

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Mudra dear your so wise.. your words fall like honey from a fork
with ease ... and free falling .. im so blessed to know you ..all my love to you
as always your friend rhythmmm ....so yes i agree with mudra here
love and mirroring rhythmmm ..:wub2::wub2::wub2:

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Thank you all for this positive energy! I can see more clearly now, I've always tried to stay away from negative ppl because the way I felt after having contact with them for a long time. Many words of wisdom in this post!

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We are all antennas. Our minds are the transceivers. It's not about being paranoid as it is more of an issue to be able to protect yourself and the ones that you love. Just because someone doesn't experience this doesn't mean those around you haven't. As what has been shared testimony in this thread will reveal to anyone, it is something that does occur. It can very well happen on a forum such as this as well. I have seen it happen here on several occasions. My paranoia wasn't involved either. hahahaa I have also seen attacks on this forum that have caused damage to others in the form of distress. No words were typed. Can you figure that one out? It is an awareness issue. That's all it is and if you haven't had any experiences from this type of phenomena, then great for you. Like someone in here said, "To each their own." Very true indeed. I also don't know the first thing about wicca but I do know about how energy works with intentions. The only thing separating a skeptic from someone who knows is just experience. Or the lack there of. Again no one in their right mind wants to experience these things and when they do it isn't a fun thing. Knowledge is power and when used correctly can be used to protect yourself and the ones you love. That is the best insurance policy one can have is taking the responsibility by exercising some simple soulutions, instead of paying for it with cash. The insurance companies don't want anyone to hear this or have it spread out there. Another disconnect. Empower yourself instead of dis-empowering yourself and you will be much better off for it. I think that was what Brook is trying to do here. I don't think she is being paranoid, because if you knew her, that wouldn't even come into play. She is coming from a position of strength and is sharing that with us. I see nothing paranoid about that. So whatever floats your boat.

And not to give credit where it is due, thanks to Mudra for sharing the words quoted by,"--from Dzogchen: The Heart Essence of the Great Perfection by His Holiness the Dalai Lama."

Thanks Brook! You go girl! :thumb_yello:

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Thanks Lionhawk, and everyone who has agreed here...it's most important to keep the positive energy flowing. How else are we going to raise the vibration here, if we are dragged down by negative influance, hitting us from the least expeceted sources.

Keep letting the sunshine on...Oh oh..feel another song coming on :zip:

:wub2:

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Sounds like every ex-gf i've ever had at the end of the relationship. :lol3:

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Observer...that's why they are EX"S. :naughty:

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There are a lot of energy vamps online. People feel protected behind their computers and lower their defenses. Energy vamps use this to their advantage and get into person's energy field very easily. Be especially aware of those who use seductive energy and just happen to have a ton of problems. Many do this unaware, but many are very aware they feel better talking to you and thus seek you out. Many people are givers and healers, and are drawn to help such people. They gain by feeling good about helping, but in the end can often become sick, withdrawn, and listless. Just ask yourself if your life has changed for the better or worse after X came along. I'm not saying dump all bad things on someone else as if they are to blame.

You can become very sensitive to these sort of people and thus shield easily from their negative affects. Most are not doing it on purpose; however, some do know what they are doing and you can stop them.

I haven't had issues with energy suckers for many years, and everything you shared Brook is spot on. Good job!

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Thank you

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Yes..thanks Unified Serenity! Good information on the online scene and the possibilities :thumb_yello:

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US that has got to be the best litmus test I have heard!:thumb_yello:
EV's coming out of the woodwork lately... run!!! :mfr_lol:

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Rituals for Energy Replenishment

Just as strengthening your immune system keeps you healthy despite constant exposure to germs, cultivating positive energy lessens your vulnerability to vampire attacks. Start by looking at what's around you--you can draw positive energy from the foods you eat, the music you listen to, even the colors you wear.

"Physical energy has a great impact on emotional energy, and vice versa". To keep both plentiful, get ample sleep, eat vitamin-rich foods, exercise each day, and monitor your stress levels. "When you're tired, burnt out, or sick, you're more susceptible to vampire assaults".


Spiritual replenishment--via meditation, prayer, or other practices--also enhances your vitality. Try these daily rituals to bring more good vibes into your life:

Say "thank you." Gratitude wards off negativity. Taking a daily 10-minute "thank-you walk" to zero in on pressing matters. If you're at work and dreading a meeting that's coming up, then take a walk around your office and say to yourself, "I know I'm stressed about this meeting, but I'm grateful for the opportunity to have it."

Start a success journal. Devote a few minutes to recording each day's accomplishments, big and small. The more you focus on success, the more success you create.

Do a 3-minute meditation. You don't need to overhaul your routine to fit in a rejuvenating meditation practice. For three minutes each day, go to a quiet space, sit down, turn off your cellphone, and concentrate on taking deep, slow breaths. Focus on a positive image, like a child's face or a red apple.


Check your emotional health. If there's a problem you're struggling with a breakup you can't get over, dissatisfaction with your career, you've made yourself a target. The vampires that get to us reflect what we haven't worked out in ourselves. But if we begin to heal, there isn't the same pull.

Be accountable. Observe how and with whom you choose to spend your time. Take inventory of the people in your life, list the ones who energize you and the ones who drain you. While it may be impossible to rid your life of energy vampires altogether, you can choose to spend more time with the friends and family members who help your spirit shine. You'll likely end up finding your way to people who bring more radiance into your life. If we work on our energy needs, we begin to attract people with more positive energy.

http://findarticles.com/p/articles/m...g=content;col1

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thank you so much for that wonderful reminder... i really got into that song and my son thought I was headed for the funny farm.. so i just sang louder. (hehe)

it was so nice to gather peace and courage from it!

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I have a 'fixer' personality, so I guess I attract EV's alot... and I found out many years ago, a very simple way of dealing with them...

1) envision a bubble shield around yourself (with only 2 holes in it- one at the top *above your head* and the other at the throat shakra or at the heart shakra)
2) envision the creator source providing energy into you -down through your head- and out of you- through the front hole directly to the other person...

that way they are not draining you of your energy, you are simply a pass-thru tool to get them the energy they need.

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that song really does do it...glad you enjoyed it :thumb_yello:

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For all the energy vampires out there...yes I do feel a song coming on..and this is one of my favorites

I just gotta ask , cause people got me questioning....Where is the love?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZVxjH04aIY

yes I know..but the whole world is addicted to the drama :wub2: Can you feel it?

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I find life a lot more tranquil without the drama of others. I do wonder if that means that I'll be a loner for the rest of my life because of it.

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i have often thought the same thing...

hey... maybe all of us loners can gather in a community and we can be...


ALONE TOGETHER :mfr_omg: (hehehe)

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Actually, scratch this thought.

When I talk about being alone, I talk about not having intimate companionship in my life.

It will happen but I've got to kick negative thoughts like the post in quote.

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I will include TROLLS as energy vampires. So don't give them creedance. Best to just ignore. I'm learning they are easily recognizable.

In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts controversial, inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room or blog, with the primary intent of provoking other users into an emotional response[1] or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion

The contemporary use of the term is alleged to have first appeared on the internet in the late 1980s,[3] but the earliest known example is from 1991.[4] It is thought to be a truncation of the phrase trolling for suckers. That phrase is itself derived from the fishing technique of slowly dragging a lure or baited hook from a moving boat, waiting for fish to strike, a technique known as trolling[1]. The word also evokes the trolls portrayed in Scandinavian folklore and children's tales, as they are often creatures bent on mischief and wickedness. The verb "troll" originates from Old French "troller", a hunting term. The noun "troll", however, comes from the Old Norse word for a mythological monster.[5]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Troll_(Internet)