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i think its when you give up looking,
they come to find you !!!

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Why is it that every time I meet a nice girl with whom I seem to "click" with, she is NEVER single?

It's a big disappointment. I wanted to ask out someone yesterday but she isn't single and we appear to have some things in common.

It just doesn't make sense. At least I asked but I am sure we will see each other again soon.

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i also think, it is easier, to just dance with the memories,
of what once was, and, leave it, at that,
eventually; things do, come full circle,
so, what purpose, is there, to dating a lot of people,
i am NOT the type, who can lead anyone on
(although, teasing can be fun)

i know from 13 til about 39 - i didn't have any time, in between relationships
and, from 39-48, i went through a
hopelessly loving/hopelessly loved monad
(that's where you love them, but, they don't know what to do with you,
NOR, how to have you on equal footing)
for the past 2 years, i've kind of enjoyed being single

besides, its a lot cheaper, and, a lot less aggreviating
to date in your dreams !!!

and, you can leave that behind you,
when you get up in the morning !!!

and, pick up the threads, where you left them,
before you got out of bed

i don't know, but, myself -- i am really picky

i have no problem with giving love --
however, i know, i have a very high level of discernment,
in what, i do/or do NOT want

ahh !!! it is frustrating, at times to be single

however, i'd rather be single & happy,
than, hooked and snared-and, unhappy

sooner, or later, i am sure, life will deal me up a King of Hearts !!!

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i'm 36 and in great health. i can't find anyone who believes in this lke i do. i up for meeting someone.

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it is when you are not looking when someone great usually comes marching in. so i won't look for anyone. i'll just peek.

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I've tried the not looking thing, that definitely doesn't work :sneaky2:

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Yeah man, that's a children's tale. Sorry to say it, but there's probably things rumbling subconsciously that make this pan out as it does.

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I think there's something to this. I met the woman who is now my wife after I had decided I wasn't looking and absolutely would not get into a long distance relationship. I think that because I wasn't "looking" I was able to interact more like a normal human being and less like a desperate lonely guy trying to pick someone up. When we parted after first meeting I had no thought of contacting her. She contacted me. We dated long distance (1000 miles - lots of plane tickets) for over two years and then got married.

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Nice one Jnana :original:


I think I'll get myself a :dog:

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30 yo single guy here. Soon moving to Portland, Oregon. Enjoys, art, music, cooking, the outdoors, computers, anime, and cuddling on the couch watching movies. :original:

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Gone past the lonely stage, now I'm at the fed up and p*ssed off with being a lone stage :wall: :original:


Can any of you mystics out there see a woman in my near future?? :snog:

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Hi Swanny
I'm no mystic so I can't predict your future for you! However having been single for many years I've gone through a variety of emotions regarding that state.

A few years ago I was working through a bout of severe loneliness and a person who I considered wise suggested something to me. He said that rather than think of myself as being lonely I could try thinking of myself as being alone. In addition he suggested that I could embrace my aloneness and treat myself really well.

I thought it was great advice and found that working on the different way of thinking really makes a difference. I tend to be more motivated to go out and do things that make me feel good. I'm more likely to go to something new on my own. I went to salsa dancing classes which I was **** at but it was great fun :mfr_lol:. There were about 18 women and 2 men in the class....it might be worth hecking if there are salsa dancing classes in your area :winksmiley02:

I'm not trying to give advice here just sharing something that has really helped me to enjoy being single a lot more.

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Thx Vipassana
I tried the salsa thing a few years ago :starwars:
I keep thinking that I'm better off being on my own than being with the wrong person :original:

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Hi eXchanger,

To some degree you're right. It's not that you've stopped searching it's that you get noticed more when you are in a situation where you're not actively searching.

In my experience, all of my girlfriends during my life were met through a mutual friend, family member or other third person.

If you reflect back, you will notice, I'm sure, that most people meet like that; through third persons. So when you go out with your mates and they bring along some ot their friends that you don't know, could reap results, as long as you are acting in a natural social manner.

I think the old 'one liners' have gone by the wayside these days. When you are in a social situation, you may be seen as you really, honestly are, where you're not under any pressure to be funny, or intellectual, or extra charming etc. Your true personality will show and there will be an admirer out there, using the social crutch of your mutual friends to close in on you.

Best regards,

Steve

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I don't watch much television but the main character played by Charlie Sheen on "Two and A Half Men" reminds me too much of myself sometimes.

He drinks, he has sex with random women and he can't seem to settle down, no matter how hard he tries.

I really don't want to become that character. I have wisened up and cut some of those things out of my life.

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Lots of interesting advise, and, ideas on this thread

perhaps, the biggest lesson of all

is that many of us, think, we need to prepare ourselves for the worst,
and, yet, love, or real love,
needs - no real preparation

to have it, do it, to be it

like truth, it is, what it is

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Swanny, do you actually know what you want? If you do, and i doubt you do or else she would be standing in front of you, then just visualise that person. They will come!

If you haven't worked out who you want, then its difficult to find someone, because you are projecting uncertainty. Even if you don't realise it, your aura/energy can be "read" by others (even though they also don't know they are reading it).

So: just visualise (very specifically) who you want, oh yeah and.... also go to a different pub.

Atb, P.

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Hi Piers
She should be happy, about 5'5" tall, late 30's early 40's, long hair, slim, no kids at home oh and about 36C :zip: :naughty:

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She's got her eye on you Swanny!

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/149/4...g?v=1174178294

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:lmao:

:roll1::roll1::roll1::roll1: :lmfao::lmfao::lmfao::lmfao:

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I'm in love :wub2::wub2:
:naughty:

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nevermind, lol

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Bugger! Don't fit any of that criteria Swanny, only the first:wall::wall:

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EYE EYE SWANEEE !!!!!!


WHT NOT JUST ASK FOR THE RIGHT ONE TO COME ALONG


one who will love you for who you are


and let you be free ...

and not try to hold you too tight ...

And of course snuggle up

when the sun goes down

loverly .....hmmmmm...

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You're a case Swanny...i guess i need to hang out with you, or you with me.....fancy a trip to asia? I'm going again soon!!!

P.

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maybe all the singles, should go together LOL

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Ok, asia tour anyone?? Then on to Carmen's for the ultimate, end-of-world party!!!!! No rules, no recriminations, no money back!!!

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This is just not right. ;)

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C, which part of "end-of-world-party" don't you understand? hehehehehe....i'll look after you.

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Unlike Swanny, I can't really put my finger on what kind of criteria I require in a woman.

It's important that she be sane. I certainly don't want to deal with people who haven't gotten their affairs in order.

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Well i guess that leaves me out Humble :insane::hypo::emot-sad:

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Are you 36C?? :naughty:


Where abouts are you going? :original:

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I'm going where the free spirits live.....

No clutter or baggage on me mate....

Freedom!

Why get tied down to someone you'll wish you weren't with in a year or two?

If i ever get together with a woman again she MUST be a free spirit too.....free of all those earthly habits like jealousy, control, possessiveness etc etc....

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Well, my definition of sane is kind of flexible.

Basically, I have dealt with people who were looking for nothing but someone to take care of them and their affairs and that is not what I want or need in my life. As long as I never have to deal with someone like that ever agian, I'll be fine.

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it is NOT 36C :lmao:

SWAMMY,
the only place you will find one,
that you could possibility do anything with,
is in The Pivot, of The NOW :thumb_yello:
the future, hasn't happened yet !!!

try looking there !!! :tongue2:

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is sane flexiable ??? the willow tree might bend,
but, eventually, the limbs do break !!!
i kind of view things, this way...as, i PEER, into my own future
(and, here's what i see)
i am looking, for what, it is, that, i can give !!!
that way, i am likely to receive, something that comes back,
that will hold the greatest of value !!!
(much is the only thing, that, can hope, to gather more)
i always want to be, "much" in any equation,
that, i choose to participate in,
isn't that really what real eXchange is all about ???
much gathers more !!!
it all starts, with taking a peer, into your yourself,
and, taking a good hard look, at what you are,
while, asking yourself that billion dollar question...
are you what you want in another ???
and, if you are, i believe, they do show up...
if you are NOT, it is likely best,
they don't show up !!!
'cause you would NOT be ready !!!
when you are ready, they do call ;)
or, at least put in an appearance
also, they oft times, drop into your dreams
as we cross paths, with others there,
before we actually meet them, in the physical 3D earth planes...
maybe, a good idea, to focus on your dreams !

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I meant to say 34C :original:
But that doesn't really matter as long as she is mad enough to put up with me then that's cool.
I think the future has happened already and we are heading into the not so unknown.
I know I've planned to meet her somewhere in the future, (I have a a very big and strong marriage line in my palm) but can't help feeling fed up waiting for her, I bet she's just taking her time putting on her make up, typical woman :naughty:

By the way the names Swanny :wink2:

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I don't think I'm quite ready just yet, I see the negative in people more than the possitive but I'm working on that :sweatdrop:

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