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Wow.

I thought I'd just talk about something I do that makes it easier to respond to "hard" posts that may seem emotionally charged.

First, I just read the post and let my first impression guide me, I do not react, I just feel and write nothing. Then I reread the post and imagine that I'm the one who wrote it and use my own internal voice as the narration. I put my self in their shoes so to speak. Through doing this I have realized that nine times out of ten, the other person just wants their opinion to be respected... not to get into a fight.

If we state our opinions (as we should) keep in mind how it will be read by another reader, keep in mind that the person who writes a post feels strongly about what they are saying. Try to be that person for a few minutes so that you can understand where they are coming from...

Then respond. After all, we are all ONE.

I have no doubt that we will get it together and continue on in a way that is complimentary and respectful to ALL opinions without demeaning anyone. It is very important that we have the freedom to do so, and it is also very important that we do not abuse our freedom and thus retain an open and peaceful forum.

Peace of mind,
Wormhole

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@Wormhole: Thanks - that is indeed the spirit.

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You know what's funny, is reading how we should couch our responses in phrases such as "in my opinion" or something like this. In college we were trained to speak in active voice and not say things that are obvious. If someone is sharing their thoughts then it is "their opinion" and it's like heads, we all have one.

Some have a more aggressive nature to their posts, and some have a more humorous tone. I have been told that I speak in authoritative tone by my partner and others, and I accept that. I don't share things which I have not spent some time researching. I also am very open minded to hear what others have to say, and never take the approach that I have all the answers.

The one thing I try to never do is call names or assume anything about another person who generously has given of themselves and chosen to embark on exposing themselves by posting as well. I imagine there are so many others who could share, but choose not to because of the negative attacks that can ensue. Flaming is obvious and I for one whether I agree with one's point of view do not appreciate negative energy aimed a myself or others who are sharing their views, and would ask that all such posts be edited or deleted as it does nothing to further growth of those reading. It is also a favorite disinfo tactic to turn posts negative and belittle others opinions and try to malign their possible affect on those reading the posts of the one maligned.

I would not wish the job of moderator on anyone. I have moderated many forums online and it is a thankless job. It is not the honor many think it is because of the decisions and attacks mods have to face... often in pm's. I salute all the moderators no matter their views for taking on the job (usually on a voluntary basis).

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As a personal reflexion " It is not until you have been challenged with despise , misunderstanding and rejection that you come to know what staying grounded in your heart , forgiveness and compassion really means " .
I 've read a book once about a monk in tibet who was captured and tortured for month by the Chinese army . What really striked and impressed me in her attitude was the equanimity she managed to keep all along and not at any given moment having responded to hatred by hatred .
If people who have undergone such cruelty and hardship can behave like this there is a lot we can learn in our daily human relations where the challenges we get are so much milder.
It takes great mastery of self to avoid a stimulus response based reaction ..to keep one's temper in check and to act with clarity of heart.
I understand some people are more of a " warrior " type . This is fine but then also I believe it should contained within the bounderies of a code of honor and decency towards our fellow human beings.
Arguments should not to started with the intention to kill each others head off but always been directed as bringing Light.


Love Always
mudra

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Some people don't like light, and it's difficult to talk to them when it's shining so bright. It can be blinding as an interrogator's beam. Intimate talk is better in the dark.

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Yes you are quite right . I can understand that too . Maybe it's all about finding the right atonement to one another and to strive for balance.
Thanks :wub2:

Love Always
mudra

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Looks like a lovely game there Brook. Can I have a go ?

My Love for You always
mudra

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I think the more we keep playing the game of being nice and have respect for one another the better we will become at it.
Lets just keep practising despite our differences.

Love Always
mudr

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I have to agree and this is what my post "Being at one" alludes to. I shan't say anymore.

Much LL&P

Z

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is all i want to say
bou x

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Flow like water...dont take anything personally, everyone has the right to say what they wish, their choice, how we respond is our choice...

"THE FOUR AGREEMENTS" IS A WORTHY READ!

respect and understanding go a long way towards ones journey.:original:

peace

Ross

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Z0001

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That was a long post Zeddo but as always I enjoyed reading it all.

Silence ...right very important to find the garden of the soul ..

Smile ...so true ..I remember about 10 years undergoing the darkness of the soul . I felt so depressed as my life was breaking to pieces..As I was walking down the street I crossed a girl that gave me the most beautifull smile I ever got . This felt like pure adrenalin ..a straight line to my heart that got instantly rekindled. I always remembered what that girl did for me and I pay it forward ever since .

and then we could add humor and laughter...that breaks apart the walls we are sometimes enclosing ourselves into ...start laughing and you'll soon see we are ONE


Love Always
mudra

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I am still smiling after watching that .....brilliant thanks Mudra !!!
:roll1:

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I am smiling and laughing with You Zeddo :roll1:

Love Always
mudra

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Hi, I'm new to this forum and already I am worried as It seems free speech and opinion and controversial discussion seem to be edited and policed here as in the so called "real world". #
wow

I am disappointed because in a world where media control and enforced social suggestion is the norm, we who feel "awake" or opposed to these evils should play the same game. Surely if someone's views which evoke controversy and ill feeling enough for these views to be expressed and then the result of which requires people to be "protected" then this may go someway to show the level of confused communication we are dealing with and its inbalance as a form of perceived and irefutable communication. (Again this is why we have develop an omnilogical understanding of crop circles, but i digress)

The irony seems to be lost on alot of you.
The term Karma seems to be misquoted, misused and invoked like a trump card without true consideration to its use, for if you truely understood Karma you again would understand the use of it in this context and its ironic and paradoxical implication.

Please, I need convincing that this forum is not another waste of time. There are too many of these forums with people petty squabling, mis-perceiveing and expounding control and views about a "written universe". We are explorers, there are no truths, nothing is true and everything is permitted. Allow people to express their views no matter the consequence. A heavy dose of cynacism and conjecture is needed, we have to test everything and open it up to debate otherwise we are the same as FOX news.

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Wise words, Karen :)

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silence is a product of gr8 duality

if you keep quiet, when you should talk
and, you withhold information from others
~ it could be considered a weapon

if you keep quiet,
when someone is bothering you
and/or you keep quiet,
when someone is fighting with you
and, you do NOT speak

~ that is where the phrase

"silence is golden" comes from

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Well said, Susan. Maybe the best way is to pause and see how speaking or not speaking fits with ones heart. And where do we want to add energy? Or not.

Love always,
Bushycat

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do we move forward

do we move back

or, do we stay in neutral ???

you know, those people, who we have crossed paths
that favour observing / and, think they are involved
are NOT really involved

a lot of people vicariously life their whole lives
through movies/and, through books
and, NEVER GET INVOLVED

WHERE ARE "THE LURKERS" ???

THE silent army of project avalon/and, project camelot

i wish some of them, would speak up

OTHERWISE, AS, MY GUIDE ONCE TOLD ME

if you hold your fingers/or your tongue ...

your fingers/and, your tongue, it will die a death

We sure would NOT want that to happen

so, it is necessary to eXert your WILL as YOUR WAY !!!

WE A LOT OF YOU ARE GOING - there isn't a path or a trail

WE BLAZE ONE !!!

(we discovered recently, its all got to be forward !!!)

however - there is always room for eXercising a choice !!!